“Unless You Hate Your Father and Mother”: The Heavy Cost
When Jesus said, “If anyone comes to Me and does not hate his father and mother, he cannot be My disciple” (Luke 14:26), His words sounded surprising. How could the One who teaches us to love and honour our parents speak this way? Jesus wasn’t calling us to emotional hatred. He was calling us to priority . In the language of His day, “hate” meant “to love less.” Jesus was teaching that our loyalty to Him must come before every relationship—even the most precious ones. And for many of us, this is where discipleship becomes costly. Family shapes who we are. But it can also become a stumbling block without us realizing it. Some families have strong expectations— “Take care of us first.” Some provide a sense of security that makes obedience feel risky. Others are deeply concerned about status and reputation and fear what wholehearted obedience may cost. These pressures can quietly pull us away from full devotion to God. A young girl once said to her parents, “I love you, but I ...